Don’t Be Afraid Of Who You Are

From a very young age, I had a deep passion for writing books that deal with big and serious issues. At the age of 10, I discovered Judy Blume books such as Are You There God? It’s Me Margaret! Tiger Eyes and Iggy’s House, which opened my mind and my soul in ways that I could never have imagined. Her books were brilliant and riveting and her characters, honest, beautiful and intense. With my consciousness deepening at the age of 10, I began writing a thought-provoking but ‘controversial’ teen book about teenage pregnancy and teenage sexuality. I hadn’t even had sex education at this time and my mother hadn’t really sat down and spoken to me about the birds and the bees, so I have no clue how I could write about this subject in depth. I wrote in detail about a teenage girl named Laura Carter who got pregnant. Laura was 13, an A Grade student, though clueless about sex and relationships. She and her best friend were young and ‘foolish’ and did not understand the consequences of their actions.

I wrote a moving account of how Laura found herself pregnant and how angry and disappointed her parents were upon discovering her secret. What’s more, I explored the period of seven days prior to the conception, and why she was dangerously curious and decided to go into her best friend Jake’s bedroom. Of course, Laura did not have the intention of doing anything untoward, but she was curious about her body and how everything worked. The book was written from a 13 year old’s perspective. I was shocked that I had the knowledge to delve into such intimate matters and had the competency to do so at such a tender age. I did not acquire this knowledge from anyone or from books or TV. Only God could have given this knowledge to me.
After ending the story with Laura’s abortion and her family moving to a new area, I felt so ashamed and embarrassed about my story, that I ripped the tale up and cried for days about the fact I had somehow been ‘sexualised’ by a modern society. What I didn’t realise, however, was that my consciousness, knowledge and acumen, belied my age. I had an adult psyche inside a child’s body. This moment was the foundation and the building block of my career.

Later on, in my late teens, early 20s, writing about teenage sexuality, teenage angst and violence, was something I grew very passionate about. Penning Unshatter Me is the end product of a process I began as a child. I have clearly been moved by important societal issues from a young age and felt the need to tackle difficult and taboo subjects since childhood.


Even earlier than this, I recall having the strong desire to write about the topic of divorce. At the age of five, I wanted to write a book about how children can get over their parents’ divorce. I was very sad back then, because my parents had just divorced and there was a lot of turbulence and bad things happening in my family life that made me disenchanted and in need of an outlet to ease my pain. I wanted to approach publishers with my idea. I knew exactly what a publisher was and that they published people’s books. But I was scared and didn’t know how to find a publisher. I could just about readHow would I locate a publisher? Crazy thoughts, ha? How many five years olds have those kinds of thoughts? It’s certainly not the norm!



Well, at least I know that I was meant to be a writer from a young age, and that gives me great comfort as I start my career as a professional writer. How would I locate a publisher? Crazy thoughts, ha? How many five years olds have those kinds of thoughts? It’s certainly not the norm!

6 thoughts on “Don’t Be Afraid Of Who You Are

  1. I think you are not a bad writer. However, I think its uneccessary for you to sing your own praises so much. For example, i would like to find out myself if a blog post opens my eyes, not have you tell mein a fb post. Similarly, if someone says they find your book inspirational then great, put a quote or review up, but dont yourself describe it as inspirational. It comes accross as arrogant. And i am more concerned about the issues you are writing about than how amazing and mature you were at 13 years old. I have been following you for a while and read your last book which i liked, but feel this needs to be said.


    1. Hi, thanks for your comments.

      I did not write this blog to sing my own praises. I am simply sharing how I felt as a child and how young children can have ‘adult’ perceptions of the world and adult consciousnesses. Everybody is entitled to an opinion and has a right to have a voice, including yourself. I would imagine that with the strong opinions you have, you’d make a formidable blog writer and have plenty to say. If you’re not already a blogger, you might want to consider it.

      Let me clear up something – I am not an arrogant person. I’ve never been arrogant. It’s pointless to have such an attitude. I do not think that I presented myself in an arrogant way. I am merely stating how I felt in childhood. If you’re not interested in reading it, fair enough. I do realise that not everybody is going to like what I write. I know this, and accept this, because I am neither arrogant nor self-centred. In fact, I like when people express their opinions, even if I don’t like it. I have to say, you are the very first person to ever call me this, and it is so refreshing to hear a different trait ascribed to my character. A trait, that I know, does not reflect me at all. This is your representation of me, not a true representation of who I am, and I really commend you for having the guts to express your views so freely. It says a lot about you.

      Thank you again for your comments and I am happy to hear that you have read and enjoyed one of my books.

      I am always pleased to hear from readers and graciously accept positive and negative feedback.

      All the best.


  2. A very interesting piece about how the writer found inspiration from issues that most aurhors of children and teenage books have been scared to tackle in the past.


    1. Hi Gem,

      Thank you for your lovely feedback.

      I am thrilled that you found my piece interesting and appreciated the sensitive issues I tackled in the blog post. I really want to help others write stories that they are passionate about, even though the topics they may want to write about are deemed as taboo.

      We all have a voice and we all should feel comfortable with expressing ourselves.


  3. I found your article very interesting and totally understand where you are coming from. I myself as young as 8/9 decided I wanted to be a journalist. I use to write down incidents that happened at school. I remember finding my tiny Victoria plum note book, with my stories. I was so embarrassed by my English grammar I tore it up. Even though I was impressed with what I had done, as I had forgotten all about it. I think it is ok to give yourself praises. We spend a lot of energy tearing ourselves down, it is good to look back on your younger self and recognise your achievements. Coming form an adult perspective looking back at your younger self you can see and recognise your strengths and weaknesses. People put it into practice all the time. Helps one move forward and better oneself.


    1. Thanks for such an insightful response, Wenona. It was so interesting reading about the stories you wrote as a child and the passion you have for writing as an adult. I also appreciate the lovely comments you made about my blog and the fact you understand where I am coming from.

      Without reflecting on our past selves, we cannot embrace our present and future.

      Continue writing, pushing yourself, aiming for new heights and inspiring others. 😊


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